“I am virgin”, I’ll wait till marriage for me to sleep with anyone”, and many other phrases that people say. Do you know how rare it is for you to hear these words come out from the mouth of a teenager or a young unmarried adult? Yes it is. Just try mentioning these words in front of other people and you might be the laughing stock of the day. This is because Sex has been the current trend in all sorts of ways be it the most synonymous of vocabularies, photos or even videos. Sex has been become the new “Swag” so to say. Everyone is having sex with everyone in the name of Love. Everyone wants a Piece of the "Cake". No one is seeing the problem of having Sex before marriage which is supposed to be the intended context.
Sex is now the symbol being used to showcase our Love towards
our so called boyfriends and girlfriends. The Saddest part of all this is that,
it’s not a big deal to find two teenage Lovebirds sleeping around in the name
of love. I work with teenagers and from a factual point most of them get to
sleep around by the time they’re 14 years old and others as early as 12. I have
had chat with a teenager who has confessed to have already slept with 7 guys at
the age of 15. Apparently most of them know its wrong but they still engage in
it to prove to the other partner how in Love they’re with them.
You
see folks, the one thing the devil has been able to succeed in one of the very
many millions of lies that he harbours is that sex is equated with “Making Love”. This is so
especially by the soap operas that fills our TV stations. In such soaps, Love
is always confirmed by having sex. Sex is now losing its real meaning and real
purpose. It’s no longer Sacred the way it was created to be. Love and Sex are
two different things, there can be Love without Sex and there can be Sex
without Love.
I
just don’t believe that when you’re in a relationship, you have to sleep with
your so called “Love” to cement your relationship to give it a meaning. You
see, I was in a relationship where the other partner saw no big deal in having
sex even as Christians, despite the fact that I told her that I decided to wait
till when the holy matrimony allows me. On top of that, her friends used to get
shocked when she told them that we don’t engage in such. In fact one friend
asked her “how do you survive without it?”
And I keep asking myself if Sex is water that one has to have it or else
die. (For those in marriage, it’s part of it). This shows you the extent of the
situation. It’s just as casual as it is, now that it’s becoming a must for
everyone to have it whether you’re in a relationship or not.
But
I still believe we have remnants, those “Old
Fashioned”, “Old School” like me who
still believe that Sex was created and should be preserved for a marriage setting.
I go to the extent to believe that French kissing and acts such as caressing should
also be preserved for the holy matrimony. I even believe that if your
girlfriend or boyfriend keeps suggesting or pressuring you to have sex or
engage in such, you should discontinue the relationship for the sake of your
future. It’s not hard but very possible. (Ask me)
This
is because such sexual acts are progressive, meaning one leads to another.
Kissing leads you to desire to do something more. Your body will want to go
onto the next step, and eventually lead to Sex.
This helps us more to even think more about Kissing, Caressing, Petting and all those sexual acts that you might be thinking. You need to think about it in light of the fact that you might one day be married. Although you can’t be sure you’ll end up married, there’s a pretty good chance that you will. What’s more, there’s at least a possibility that you won’t be married to your current girlfriend according to a Harris Interactive Online Survey.
Fast forward all that in your mind to the time when you are married. God wants and (I also know you will want) your marriage relationship to be as special as it can be. So the less you do now physically with your girlfriend or boyfriend, I believe the more special your marriage relationship will be. Although I am not married I know that it will also make it easier for you to be satisfied with your wife if you don’t have other experiences to compare her with.
As you keep watching Samantha Bridal, Wedding shows and even attending other people’s weddings, one can’t get enough of being marveled at the spectacle of the exquisiteness during the wedding, and people are always left in awe knowing very well and even believing that these two lovebirds will live happily ever after.
One person who does not fail in helping one to craft all these principles and decisions is other than God.
He says in 1 Peter 5:10 And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. (NIV)
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